Designing a passionate life includes having energizing relationships. This includes all of your relationships, friends, family, partner, co-workers, community and any other people that touch your life. The longer I live the more that I find that my life centers around my relationships with others. Without these relationships my life would be boring and unfulfililng.
At times, I feel like I would like to go find a cave and live there for the peace and quiet but I soon realize that I would go stir crazy and would not find it fulfilling at all. We all are affected by the energy around our relationships, the good and the not so good. For me, part of living a passionate life is to optimize my relationships with everyone in my life and feel energized by my interactions with them, not drained. This can have its challenges but it also has its rewards.
Think about it, what drains you the most about your day? My guess would be the interactions with other people. What do you think would happen if you could be in the flow and work with other people without resistance or negative thoughts about them entering your head? Sound like a pipe dream? Not really. The people who challenge you the most are the ones who have the most to teach you and from whom you can learn the most.
How to Create Energizing Relationships
When in a challenging conversation with a person, ask yourself: What is his or her point of view in this circumstance? If you don't know, then ask. Get clarity, don't guess. You can make up stories all day and without asking all you've got are the stories you make up. You can create a story that you walk around with for years that is simply not true. Find out and then ask more questions after you know. Be curious.
What aspects of the person that challenges you would you like to have a drop of in you? For example, this person keeps asking questions continuously until he is clear on what you want from him. Is there a part of you that would like to ask more questions but feels awkward doing so?
When you are in a loving partner relationship and your partner does something to break your trust ask yourself: Who was he/she trying to protect? What would I have done? How did I contribute to this person breaking the trust between us?
In order to live passionately in all of your relationships you need to be clear about your part in the relationship success or failure. Start to notice the things you say, do, and think about the "problem" person or persons in your life and make a list of the characteristics of the person(s) that you find beneficial. There is always at least one thing that is beneficial. My experience has been that when I start seeing the other person differently and with a positive perspective, the relationships shifts positively.
Try it and see if you start to change your attitude towards this person and see if the relationship shifts. The change has to start somewhere and so why not with you? Start living passionately in all aspects of your life. Sign up for my free PDD report and see what you can do to get started now.