Designing a passionate life for some, may include a romantic relationship. If so, then how do you set expectations for your relationship? What do you expect to give to your partner and what do you expect in return? Have you ever sat down and actually thought about what you want out of a relationship or is it a foggy vision in your head? Foggy visions produce foggy results.
Clarity about what you expect out of a relationship will enable you to really understand what you want and to verbalize it. So many times people enter into a relationship without any conversation about what they want to contribute and receive from the relationship and then they are disappointed because the other person "doesn't know" what you want or what to give.
Nobody is a mind reader and believing that someone should "know" is only setting you up for disappointment. The conversation about expectations has to be two way and an agreement reached on both sides. If you have an expectation that the other person can't deliver, then you have to decide if you can live without that expectation being met. This is the tricky part, because early on in the relationship you may think that you can live without a particular expectation being met. Then as time goes on you begin to resent the other person because your expectation isn't being met.
That's why some self-introspection is important before you decide on a romantic relationship. You have to be clear about what is negotiable and what isn't negotiable. As one of my friend's said to me, if my ABC expectation isn't met 'that's a deal breaker'. She's clear and if she sees early on in the relationship that it's not happening after a heart to heart conversation, she ends the relationship and moves on. It may seem a bit harsh, but it saves both of you a lot of time and energy. There are times when one person in the relationship can not give what the other persons wants.
Take some time and go within and write down the values you want in a relationship, write down the 'deal breakers', get clear and have a talk with your partner. Design your passionate relationship together.
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