Designing a passionate life includes knowing your values, passions, spirituality, and character traits. My husband recently asked me a question that I found rather intriguing and thought provoking. So of course, I want to pass it onto you. If you are in a romantic relationship, it is a really good question to ask each other.
The Question:
Which three actors/actresses would you pick that have character traits similar to your own and then describe the character traits that you share with that person?
(Of course, we don't really know the actors/actresses but we have a perception of them and we give them character traits from that perception, which we relate to.)
The Answer:
The first person picks three people and explains the character traits that he/she shares with the actor/actress.
Before you do this exercise, I would set some ground rules for sharing this information.
Ground Rules
- Take turns asking the question
- When your partner replies, simply listen, give no commentary at all, yes that means say nothing about what they said. Don't turn it into a major discussion.
- Thank your partner for sharing.
You are both sharing a part of yourself and making yourself vulnerable to the other person and both of you want to be accepted for who you are, so offering commentary or disagreeing with the person's assessment could cause an argument and perhaps even damage to your relationship.
I found that it gave me insights into how my husband sees himself in the world and gave me a new understanding of him in one particular area of his life. It was enlightening. It helped me to see things from his viewpoint and as a result, I'm more understanding. This goes a long way to creating a peaceful relationship.
Designing a passionate life may include romantic relationships for you. Understanding your partner's viewpoint goes a long way to creating the type of relationship you want. Start living passionately, and sign up for my free PDD report now.
